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The Lair of Lady Monster - What is EcoSexuality

Reader Question:

    What is Ecosexuality?

Thank you reader for your question. I would like to introduce you to my friends, Beth Stephens and Annie Sprinkle, the founders of the Ecosexual movement.


“We're changing the metaphor from 'Earth as Mother' to 'Earth as Lover'”

  • Elizabeth Stephens, Artist, Ecosexual, Professor


“We aim to make the environmental movement more sexy, fun and diverse.”

  • Annie Sprinkle, PhD, Artist, Ecosexual, Sexologist


On May 17, 2008 I attended Annie Sprinkle and Elizabeth Stephens' Green Wedding To The Earth, performed outdoors on the University of Santa Cruz campus.

The Lair of Lady Monster

I have three rules for having good sex. 1. Communicate. Tell your partner what you want or don't want. Communicate what your boundaries and desires are. Being honest with your partner means not telling them what you think they want to hear, but what you need them to hear. Being a good sex partner means not laughing or judging. Be willing to learn what it takes to please your partner. 2. You are your own limit. Be accountable, do not blame anyone or anything for why you are not having the sex life you want. What is keeping you from this? Is it your partner, have they stopped desiring you? Is it because you are a new parent or have younger children. Are you working constantly to pay the bills and don't have time? Perhaps you're single and are holding out for a loving relationship, or have a disability where it's difficult to have sex without pain or injury. Think honestly about what it is that is limiting you, and why you want more from your sex life. How attached are you to these limits, to your reasons? What solutions are possible to tackle these limits? What would it take for you to go further? 3. Lose your fear of mess.

Ohio Linux Fest

The 11th annual Ohio Linux fest (OLF) goes down this weekend. It's a free conference happening Friday, Saturday and Sunday at the Greater Columbus Convention center downtown. The theme of the conference is FOSS Links the World, (FOSS stands for Free and Open Source Software). You may be asking, what is Linux? Kevin O'Brien, the publicity director for OLF, explains. “Linux is the software that can run your computer. It is similar in that respect to Microsoft Windows or the Macintosh OS/X operating system. But, unlike those other operating systems, you have complete freedom as to where and when you install it. Linux is software that respects your freedoms, not the desires of some corporation somewhere. Also, the software is completely transparent because all of the source code is freely published and anyone can download it.” So even if you haven't heard of Linux before, you have probably used a computer running it at some point, if you have used the search engine Google (a sponsor of OLF) or an Android smart phone.

Free Press Launch ain't nothin' but a party

On September 4, Little Rock Bar in Italian Village played host to the official Launch Party for the new Columbus Free Press, one day in advance of our first issue hitting the news stands. Columbus's newest free weekly alternative newspaper could not have wished for nicer weather or a more enthusiastic turn out. Free Press supporters and other revellers enjoyed music by Zancudo, a Latin-pop trio, and kept two food trucks busy all evening. Mikey's Late Nite Slice kept churning out true New York style pizza that our guests raved about, while the Grub Gallery served up some excellent pulled pork and vegetarian items. The real gem from the Grub Gallery, though, was their outstanding home-made salsa. Inside Little Rock, the staff pulled taps on some locally produced brews provided by Four String Brewing Co. that had the beer-loving crowd talking. Most of the evening's conversations, however, centered around the paper itself. By all accounts, The Free Press is a welcome addition to the market. Many of our guests expressed a real need for an alternative voice in central Ohio.

The Lair of Lady Monster

Hello, I'm Lady Monster. I'm a Certified Sex Specialist.

Sex is my passion, especially sexuality studies. In 1992, I began reading my own sexual stories and poetry aloud. In 1998, I volunteered for Columbus Ohio Sex Information, a hotline providing anonymous, non-judgmental information to callers with questions.

I moved to San Francisco in 2001. I received more training from San Francisco Sex Information and worked on their hotline and events. I progressed to co-producing events at Carol Queen's Center for Sex and Culture and then worked as a Production Assistant for Annie Sprinkle's Love Art Lab for three years. I was immersed in the sex-positive culture of San Francisco.

I have no issues regarding sex, except when they hinge on issues of consent. I maintain the three basics of sex-positive interactions: Safe, Sane and Consensual.

Regardless of the questions I receive in this column, I will respond with positive, non-judgmental information. My goal is to provide educational, progressive and provocative insight to one's most primal of urges, and shine a light into our bedrooms to bring us all closer together.

With CoGo you can Go Slow

The city of Columbus can now tout it's very own bike share program thanks to a $2.3 million contract signed with Alta Bicycle share. If you have been anywhere near downtown in the last month you may have noticed the shiny unmanned stands stocked with bikes and evidently powered by a lone mounted solar panel. When I was approached by my editor about writing an article about riding the CoGo, I was excited about the opportunity to explore the cutting edge of sustainable urban transportation, what I found was a little disappointing.

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